Opposition doesn’t help young minds

It is true, that the more clashing material young people use to learn the less time do they spend working within the system to improve their lives.

I’m sometimes baffled with the stuff my daughter comes up with. Some critical thinking that mainly comes from teachers.

Whilst the government has asked schools not to use anti-capitalist material, something that of course must enrage every true Labour politician, kids are caught out in the middle. The state schooled kids that is.

Teachers with strong believes can muddle with pupils’ minds. That’s why it is important that parents talk to their kids. Because only through talking can we see what is going on in their minds.

My daughter came up with stuff that a teacher kept on talking about women’s lib in the context of her lessons. Masking everything into the enslavement of women. That sets a tone.

The latest one is that prisons should spend more money on prisoners. Young people can be influenced in all sorts of ways and often, taken by itself, a lot of arguments make sense to a young person.

Young people are often pre-occupied by fairness for everyone and giving equal chances. Anybody driving that agenda on social media gets a lot of young followers instantly.

That’s probably the curse of state-school pupils, the equality agenda. Whilst kids in private schools come from a wealth creation background, state pupils often come from a search for equality background.

That of course creates a clash in the long run.

Incredible flexibility

Education Secretary Gavin Williamson has shown incredible flexibility – for a government – and altered decision making to fit the need of the people. That is something he should be praised for. They listened and acted to come up with best possible solutions.

I am also blaming the media for making a circus of it and stipulating calls for resignation rather than having some kinder comments to make. Perhaps that doesn’t attract readers.

Nobody could have anticipated the chain of events that happened after the realisation of Covid-19.

Unfortunately some opposition politicians critisize for the sake of making points and opposition instead of looking at the issue.

Especially in government departments like Education, we do not want a constant change in the ministerial lead. All those who communicate with the Deptartment of Education see how frustrating it is to get those notifications, that correspondence cannot be answered at the moment because of a change in leadership.

I very much welcome it that he doesn’t resign.

 

The exam result revolt

the latest decisions by education ministers reveal that pupils can use their Mock GCSE or A-level results if algorithms’ used to determine grades seriously lower their achievements.

We are in such a predicament. The school has been closed because of bad results – among other reasons. Yet my child’s results have always been above average. Went to a low-achieving Primary and the year of his SATs the school’s standing in the league tables rose.

Unfortunately for us, now in the school, which is also closing this year, the school has refused to supply a printed copy of the second Mock GCSE results.

The first Mock GCSE results already provide a pass for Sixth form entry but the second lot was even better. I do not understand why a school would refuse to give a printed copy of those mock exam results to pupils.

I have now contacted the head of education in the borough, Christine McInnes and the head of the closing school and the Executive head of the school who works in another school.

It is stressful to say the least.

The LBTH cabinet meeting

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Spent the whole evening listening to the Tower Hamlets council cabinet meeting online and was amazed to hear that now Oaklands school has been called financially vulnerable because it has only a 4-form entry and is small.

The original plan was to close Raine’s Foundation because it was in debt and failed to attract pupils and to save money transfer Raine’s pupils to Oakland, expland Oaklands and then make Oakland viable.

The problem with this strategy was that the council has not secured the extra space for Oaklands to expand to.

The planned site, the Raine’s Lower schools has not yet been purchased by Tower Hamlets council and that is 2 years after the original decision to consider closure of Raine’s and transfer to Oaklands was made.

How can pupils now apply to Oaklands Sixth form when the Sixth form in Oaklands has not gotten a site yet?

It’s now July, school is back in September and the council still has not gotten a site to house the extra Oaklands pupils.

If that is not completely and utterly ridiculous for a council to drag pupils along in between schools and just leave to guess, which school has enough places for them is more than a worst service for education.

The council had more than enough time to secure enough space for pupils in the Oaklands ‘planned expanded Sixth form’ but so far the cuncil has failed to take decisive action.

The council now plays the same game with Oaklands that they previously played with Raine’s, playing the potentially financially unviable card and a closure may be necessary in the future.

I think it was unfair on Steering Group members to leave the situation in Limbo because pupils and parents alike were fearful that they would not find places to get a good education.

Parents didn’t want to apply to Oaklands because they did not have the extra spaces and so people probably get dispersed around the borough with Oaklands having to have problems over size.

It’s not really satisfying to hear the repeated shouts from Christine McInnes that Tower Hamlets has an excellent rate of pupils moving on to University, as this is not to continue if education gets scaled back the way they do.

They are cutting back sport and reducing school places at an alarming rate.  And whilst schools in Bethnal Green close, the youth centre has also been closed.

If the education in Tower Hamlets was really as good as they try to make us believe, wouldn’t pupils queue around the borough to get into our schools? But the opposite is the case, pupils leave the borough for Sixth form education and not a lot of pupils want to come into Tower Hamlets to learn. Normally with good schools people come from far and wide but not in Tower Hamlets.

 

Tower Hamlets a breeding ground for nonsense

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Remember people knives are for cooking not for violence. Photo by Lukas on Pexels.com

Having to live in Tower Hamlets comes with a great amount of displeasure. Some people used to sniff their noses at me at other locations in Britain when they heard that I reside in the borough.

A former employer dismissed my status as Neighbourhood Watch coordinator in ‘Tower Hamlets’ as something inferior to other boroughs.

How comes that young school girls feels empowerd to leave the country and join Islamic State undetected from their parents, friends or family?

Young girls are normally not that good in keeping secrets. They can lie but then they would need to feel a certain amount of safety and security prior to getting engaged in plans concerning their future.

But I do admit that girls who are involved with some Asian lads are extremely good in lying. One of my daughters gotten raped by a group of Asian men for years but she always lied to me about this. The police failed to prosecute the matter and so the rapists think they can get away with stuff like that in Tower Hamlets.

My current adopted child said she received threats to get stabbed from pupils of a school mainly used by Muslim pupils, if she considers attending there.

There is documented evidence from Church of England pupils who received similar threats.

My own daughter, now in her thirties threatened to slash my throat if I only mention my grandson’s name ever again. This led me to ask the lads dad to apply for sole custody of the boy.

How can a white girl get to use such language unless they live in a borough where such threats are common place? What normal daughter would threaten her own mother like that?

I am now estranged from my daughter who made those THREATS but that didn’t stop the council’s social services to ring me and ask wether I wanted remedial negotiations with my daugher and counselling to repair the relationship.

I refused, my own daughter didn’t even apologize to me. I rather forfeit the relationship with my own daughter rather than have threats and bad language to put up with.

Therefore it is quite understandable to me that the government now seeks to consider changes to legal aid rules, which enable people, who’ve had their citizenship removed for national security reasons, to use our legal aid to get to appeal to the national courts for Judicial Review.

Apparently the last interview I saw from Shamima Begum’s dad was when he was in Bangladesh. So if she has a father in Bangladesh why does she want to come back to Britain? Perhaps only Tower Hamlets would make her feel welcome.

I think our local MP Rushanara Ali has spoken up in her support. I have my own struggle with Rushanara who does very little to get the infra-structure of our local area, which houses the school, at which Shamima Begum attended modernised.

We had our local Church of England school closed in favour of council schools, which are mainly used by Muslim pupils.

The cultural changes here in Tower Hamlets are very fundamental. Cultural development is a very big driver for national security and community development.

However a trial of Shamima Begum in Great Britain would at least mean an in-depth investigation how it was possible that those girls could communicate so subversively with members of Islamic State and flee our country to join them.

No wonder pupil numbers drop

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Chest Hospital remains boarded up

Raising a child in Tower Hamlets has become just that little bit more difficult now, with Shamima Begum and her other friends being raised in our immediate neighbourhood, I cannot help wondering what her return to Britain will bring. Her family must be from Tower Hamlets or she would not have gone to a Secondary in Old Bethnal Green Road.

It’s really bad if not just one but three mainstream pupils from a council run Secondary school leave the country to join a terrorist organisation.

But, this reflects the demographic in this borough. And now, Tower Hamlets Council is very busy closing schools because of falling pupil numbers.

I won’t send my child to a Sixth form in Tower Hamlets either. As far as I understand Sixth Forms in Tower Hamlets fail to attract the high number of brightest pupils they need to expand.

I shall send my child rather to Hackney than educate in Tower Hamlets.

Because of the pupil mix Tower Hamlets now even reduces sports education sharply. It’s a very sad state of affairs.

I am constantly writing to my Member of parliament because of many maintenance issues.

Just looking at the former Chest Hospital. Every time I walk past I need to look at the constantly decaying buildings within and nothing gets done at all. It would be better to develop the site. I definitely prefer shiny new buildings instead of crumbling bricks to look at.

 

the young people of tomorrow

protest-bannerTower Hamlets is doing its best to close down public services like schooling for children. There are various applications in the council to close and amalgamate schools.

A recent TV report claimed that Tower Hamlets moves homeless families up north but that the councils there do not get informed of the new arrivals. So if they don’t know how can they make enough school provision?

Incidentally when my daughter had been homeless – because her violent partner had smashed up her flat – we went to Westminster and Chelsea council and they said they send their homeless to Tower Hamlets.

Moving on is the motto these days. The poor working classes are moved on relentless and getting a secure tenancy is like gold dust.

Children will become much more flexible in their approach because they need to take in that education whilst they get it. When I was young we used to have the same teachers in the same schools for life but now it’s constantly new teachers and constantly moving on.

People are strongly discouraged now to have kids whilst on benefits but only a few decades ago, women were encouraged to stay at home and have kids.

Those kids born in the 80s needed a lot of schools. Now, with benefits being cut and employment encouraged for all genders, the amount of schools needed is reduced.

But with the large increase of an older population, who is going to keep the country going if not the young people of tomorrow?

I think this government is playing with this country as every country needs a strong younger generation to carry the flag.

Whilst people with jobs like Boris Johnson can father various children with various women, those on low incomes can hardly afford one child. But then if a richer guy fathers various children with different women, the sheer amount of maintenance will reduce the quality of life for all of them.

I know because one of my daughters has two children with a guy who also has two other women who have his children.

Those changes in the set-up of standards will greatly affect the nation. On one hand, we’ve got the Royal Family cast in stone. Permanent marriages with permanent partners and on the other hand we got – the Prime Minister included – the folks who constantly change partners and have kids with whoever they meet.

On top of that are children borne from surrogacies.

For a grandparent like myself, that priviledge now only exists on paper because with constantly changing relationships the amount of various children from various partners all make a great big mix, which I did not sign up for and I doubt that most grandparents can afford to maintain gifts to all those extended families over a long period of time.

 

Education v. Emotion

I finally cracked the mystery of my life. Since I’ve received by first death threat, I am reminiscent of the history of events that led to this point.

If you look through this blog, I’d received a fair amount of banter and sheer bullying abuse from people over the years but never a death threat.

I received abuse over remarks I made to  family members about improving ones chances in life with extra education and re-doing GCSE and A-levels would improve employment prospects. Another remark that a grandchild of mine would be better off with his dad then culminated in an actual death threat. Yes, I reported that to police and gotten a crime number. I do not tolerate any type of threatening behaviour from anyone and especially not from family members or my own children.

As soon as I had become a LEA school governor people started to dig out dirt, wrote about an ancient arrest in the 70s in Germany. It’s all been recorded in this blog.

Yet, it is explained in the simple fact that as soon as serious education comes into play people suddenly start to react over-emotional.

Some questions I needed to answer for myself were:

  1. why didn’t I attend university when it was free of charge in Germany
  2. why did I get married to a man I hardly knew

Those are the most important questions and I shall answer them.

To 1. It is a very long story. I did not attend university and dropped out of education because the events in my family, which happened whilst I was young, were so disturbing that it led to my temporary downfall and demise.

The case is that when I was 7 I suddenly started to develop scoliosis and it went very badly quite rapidly. Thanks to my father’s private medical insurance I received intense treatment, which then eventually culminated in 2 operatoins when I was age 14 to straighten my spine.

Prior to that my mother – who worked as a telephonist at the local hospital in Wuerzburg – had become an alcoholic. She attempted suicide several times and at one occasion I found her hanging on the living room cupboard upon my return from school. All this was enough to send me over the edge and I started to attend local discos and my learning started to suffer.

I had excellent grades in Elementary school and was top of the class, I had become champion in mental arithmetic but then when my mother started drinking, I dropped out of the results and had to repeat a year because I went to a grammar school teaching business and economics. My results there weren’t fantastic and I lost my desire to educate further.

Though I eventually started Higher Education in an Engineering College in Cologne as the only woman there. But without any emotional or financial support from my family I soon fell off the planned track.

My family was a mystery to me. Nobody seemed to talk to each other, there was little emotion and no loving atmosphere. My mother finally apparently committed suicide. On an evening when both my father and my sister and I went out, my mother went to the local River Main in Wuerzburg and she was found drowned the next day.

For years and years I never understood why my mother, who was always very caring friendly and totally rational suddenly went over the edge and became an alcoholic and why my sister seemed so distant and my father so very cold. Understand this happened in the 60s.

Just prior to my fathers death – I already had been in London since 1977 – I learned that my sister actually had a sexual relationship with my father. She admitted it to me personally when I went to Wuerzburg for my dad’s funeral. My sister refused to attend the funeral because my step-mother attended but she came to see me the next morning and I asked her straight up and she admitted having had an affair with my father. My only explanation is that this is the reason why my mother started to drink because she found out about this.

It is more than unfortunate that this had not been reported to the police at the time and if it was I wasn’t told about it.

We had lived in a house in Wuerzburg in the second floor and my sister moved out of the home and gotten a flat in the fourth floor of the same house. My sister called me a cripple because of my scoliosis and told me never to have children. My sister is still alive today but we have no contact. I sent her a Christmas Card a few years ago and it was returned by the Post Office marked refused.

Over the years my sister treated me like dirt because I married the man I had my children with and she attacked me for having had those children and refused to support me in any way whatsoever.

That brings me to point 2. why I got married to the man I didn’t know.

I was in an emotional volative state of mind. I lived in Cologne, attended school and had a part-time job at the Otto Versand but emotionally I was a wreck. All those unexplained emotionally shocking events in my past, the lack of family support drove me to act irrationally.

I met a man who said he was working for the famous writer Guenther Wallraff and the man asked me whether I could help him type a book for the author. I said I could do it but would not be able to it in my flat but suggested we go to London instead for a few days as I knew a friend there. Suddenly there were money problems and I agreed to take out a loan to bridge costs. You know where this is going. Once in London the guy disappeared, the 3.000 Deutsch mark disappeared and I was crushed, ruined and totally fed up. Apparently Guenther Wallraff was interviewed by police about this but he said he had nothing to do with this whatsoever.

The guy who apparently took my money and disappeared with it was later found dead and a murder investigation ensued. The police was dealing with this and I was greateful that Deutsche Bank let me off from having to repay that 3.000 Deutsch mark loan.

However I was completely paralysed by yet another strange occurance in my life. Whilst I had the flat in Cologne waiting for me, I just could not bring myself to go back. I met my husband in a pub and fell head over heel in love. I had found a job at the BBC German service but had nowhere to live in London.

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Street pary in Longfellow Road, I lived at no 36 for some time until the whole road gotten torn down and I became a council tenant.

My husband was squatting in the famous Longfellow Road and I thought that was very romantic. Literally my brain completely stopped working, probably because of the sudden hormone over-drive I found myself in.

I insisted on getting married and had no bigger wish than having children with the man I loved. There now followed 15 years of hardship and poverty. I spent my later inheritance before I even got it but repaid all my debts once the inheritance arrived from Germany.

Now five children later I actually also have around 10 grandchildren. I have no contact with many of them. All those grandchildren were born by my daughters, my sons, went on to get jobs and approached life in a more rational manner.

Whilst I raised my kids I bought them a lot of books because I loved books. As a child I read hundreds of books. I opened up my own private library as the school didn’t have one. I borrowed books to poorer pupils who could not afford them.

Unfortunately my husband turned out to be the uneducated type. In fact he had no interest in education or reading whatsoever. That was one major contributing factor to me getting a divorce eventually. We had many arguments over life-style choices and attitutes.

The only achievement he had was being an extra in the film Fightclub. He worked as volunteer in his later years up to his death from cancer. He was never violent towards me and for that I am thankful. He probably only married me because I worked for the BBC and he loved films.

I have had 3 daughters and 2 sons from that marriage. I became naturalised and eventually a British Citizen. There was no support from my German family and especially not from my sister. My father sent birthday and Christmas cards and visited a couple of times and that was it. The rest of my family didn’t want to know.

I eventually took my sons to meet my German cousin in the remote village he lives in in Unterfranken a few years ago, so just that my sons know where I come from.

I have become completely estranged to my daughters now. All of them decided to bunk off school in the latter stages of their education and follow their father’s life philosophy. My daughters mixed up with partners but I had no say in their choices.

My second oldest daughter was born with a severe learning disability, which was – in my opinion – due to negligence during the home birth assistance. Her brain was starved of oxygen as the birth was delayed due to a sleeping pill I had been given by the midwife. Instead of delivering the baby late at night.

Unfortunately she was never given a statement of special educational needs and so her learning disabilty was never formally diagnosed until she finished with secondary education. She was found to have a mental age of a 9 year old and an IQ of 64. She never understood the purpose of education and schools just ignored her needs. I went to lawyers about this but legal action was denied as viable by a barrister because no statement of special educational needs was ever issued.

Yet this undiagnosed learning disability caused the whole family enormous problems.

I needed to care for her and worked from home for years, even starting my own company.

Nowadays children are much better off, they get Statements of Special Educational needs and lots of extra support but we had to do without.

My daughter with the learning disability was being abused by some men in the 90s without my knowledge but the police could not prosecute because of her own thinking that her abusers were her best friends. Anyhow the Director of Public Prosecution refused to prosecute the case. Of course an abused woman with a mental age of 9 would believe her abusers and think they are her best friends.

I think what people need to realise is that improving education is always the way forward. There is no good reason to attack people and especially not me for suggesting it.

I think emotional involvement often leads to distortion of facts and people just do not see the reality of the situation any longer. That now applies especially to one of my daughters who – I believe – threatened me. That matter is with the police.

Whilst I raised my children we had to live – at some point with 7 people in a 2-bedroom council flat – but that should not have led to people losing faith.

I now care for my granddaughter who has excellent grades and wants to go to university. She is good at sport and has a totally different attitude to life. She has lived with me whilst my other children moved away and so she is not exposed to the muddled way of thinking that some of my daughters adopted.

Literally these days, to make it in life, kids really need to focus on education, push away all other influences that hinder a university degree. I am now more than willing to support that.

I don’t believe that keeping secrets helps anybody. Abuse and emtional turmoil always comes to haunt those who were exposed to it and so it is that I publish the facts about  me coming to Britain and how my life here went so far.

I think that everybody should have ambitions and dreams and do their best to fulfill them. Making things better in life is one of the reasons we all live and get on.

If you read through this story and arrived at this, you will be pleased to know that I am going to be 69 years of age this year and that I despise all those who generally accuse older people of suffering from dementia or Alzheimers and having a loss of mental capacity. Older people have a lot of wisdom to give and younger people are better off listening to it.

 

 

Can’t go back

Can completely understand the sentiments of the Durrell woman, who asked herself what she did wrong, when her kids displayed an attitude attributed to single mothers in the old days.

She loved her husband and was blessed by the fact that he had died whilst she still loved him. He must have been a good man.

It is very hard to raise kids with a husband in a cvilised society if that husband is a more than liberal dreamer.

My husband turned out to be one of those and had no discipline and no ambitions.

I don’t know what’s worst; mourning a loving husband or living with a total dreamer who is incapable of earning any money.

Better to have good memories than bad ones.

Not liking hot climates, going to Greece or south of the Alps is not an option. I stick it out in Britain, though my then divorced husband died years ago of cancer.

During my marriage I was always the disciplinarian. My husband didn’t mind his five children swinging on the handles of underground traines during long journeys through London, whilst I tried my best to get them to sit down.

His favourite modern song was ‘another brick in the wall‘ by Pink Flloyd in defiance of education.

That constant state of surrealistic freedom made it hard for the children to fit in. The memory of the father who allowed everything is overpowering.

Now expectations have changed, children have no choice but to make a working life the rule and looking back to the Hippie years of the baby boomers is not an option.

The influence of the father is always very strong and nothing is harder for a parent than to overcome a non-disciplined head of the family who can’t hold down a job.

Schools should teach children the rules of life and not just subjects in the sciences and art or drama. How to earn money, how to pay bills, how to navigate society are lessons some children do not learn at home.

I found that those kids who want to listen to sensible advice are the only ones making life succesful and understand that a career is the only way to improve one’s lot.

distorting facts

whilst some Christmas advertisements promote sending gifts to remote pensioner parents or grand-parents, it is more likely that those parents and/or grandparents are expected to send gifts to the remotely living grandchildren they never see.

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Online platforms enable pictorial representation of the sweet little things that then translates into buying gifts for birthdays, Christmas, graduation etc.

Yet, distant relationships become estranged and any parent or grandparents can get a real shock when they are suddenly confronted with the actual ideology their children have.

Once a parent always a parent is no longer valid. Once we stop receiving child-benefit forthose little ones, they become legal entities in their own right and we no longer need to care.

They have moved out, make their own friends and no longer ask for approval. They do no longer need to ask for approval, as we do not have those large family homes that house generations.

We have small dwellings that house 1,2 or 3 at most. Always on the go.

Whilst parental instincts dictate the caring attitude and the: “I must safe him/her from harm and promote their prospoerity”, the kids themselves often couldn’t care less.

They are far away and use platforms like Facebook or Instagram to post those heart-melting photos that make you save up your pension for the next celebrationary gift.

They often know what you want to hear and say little else.

But if you hear something that is concerning, unlawful or outright dangerous, please do not hesitate to report them to the proper authorities and keep yourself and others safe.

Graduation gifts are reasonably good as they reward achievement and that is what parents and grandparents really should concentrate on.

 

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