the young people of tomorrow

protest-bannerTower Hamlets is doing its best to close down public services like schooling for children. There are various applications in the council to close and amalgamate schools.

A recent TV report claimed that Tower Hamlets moves homeless families up north but that the councils there do not get informed of the new arrivals. So if they don’t know how can they make enough school provision?

Incidentally when my daughter had been homeless – because her violent partner had smashed up her flat – we went to Westminster and Chelsea council and they said they send their homeless to Tower Hamlets.

Moving on is the motto these days. The poor working classes are moved on relentless and getting a secure tenancy is like gold dust.

Children will become much more flexible in their approach because they need to take in that education whilst they get it. When I was young we used to have the same teachers in the same schools for life but now it’s constantly new teachers and constantly moving on.

People are strongly discouraged now to have kids whilst on benefits but only a few decades ago, women were encouraged to stay at home and have kids.

Those kids born in the 80s needed a lot of schools. Now, with benefits being cut and employment encouraged for all genders, the amount of schools needed is reduced.

But with the large increase of an older population, who is going to keep the country going if not the young people of tomorrow?

I think this government is playing with this country as every country needs a strong younger generation to carry the flag.

Whilst people with jobs like Boris Johnson can father various children with various women, those on low incomes can hardly afford one child. But then if a richer guy fathers various children with different women, the sheer amount of maintenance will reduce the quality of life for all of them.

I know because one of my daughters has two children with a guy who also has two other women who have his children.

Those changes in the set-up of standards will greatly affect the nation. On one hand, we’ve got the Royal Family cast in stone. Permanent marriages with permanent partners and on the other hand we got – the Prime Minister included – the folks who constantly change partners and have kids with whoever they meet.

On top of that are children borne from surrogacies.

For a grandparent like myself, that priviledge now only exists on paper because with constantly changing relationships the amount of various children from various partners all make a great big mix, which I did not sign up for and I doubt that most grandparents can afford to maintain gifts to all those extended families over a long period of time.

 

Education v. Emotion

I finally cracked the mystery of my life. Since I’ve received by first death threat, I am reminiscent of the history of events that led to this point.

If you look through this blog, I’d received a fair amount of banter and sheer bullying abuse from people over the years but never a death threat.

I received abuse over remarks I made to  family members about improving ones chances in life with extra education and re-doing GCSE and A-levels would improve employment prospects. Another remark that a grandchild of mine would be better off with his dad then culminated in an actual death threat. Yes, I reported that to police and gotten a crime number. I do not tolerate any type of threatening behaviour from anyone and especially not from family members or my own children.

As soon as I had become a LEA school governor people started to dig out dirt, wrote about an ancient arrest in the 70s in Germany. It’s all been recorded in this blog.

Yet, it is explained in the simple fact that as soon as serious education comes into play people suddenly start to react over-emotional.

Some questions I needed to answer for myself were:

  1. why didn’t I attend university when it was free of charge in Germany
  2. why did I get married to a man I hardly knew

Those are the most important questions and I shall answer them.

To 1. It is a very long story. I did not attend university and dropped out of education because the events in my family, which happened whilst I was young, were so disturbing that it led to my temporary downfall and demise.

The case is that when I was 7 I suddenly started to develop scoliosis and it went very badly quite rapidly. Thanks to my father’s private medical insurance I received intense treatment, which then eventually culminated in 2 operatoins when I was age 14 to straighten my spine.

Prior to that my mother – who worked as a telephonist at the local hospital in Wuerzburg – had become an alcoholic. She attempted suicide several times and at one occasion I found her hanging on the living room cupboard upon my return from school. All this was enough to send me over the edge and I started to attend local discos and my learning started to suffer.

I had excellent grades in Elementary school and was top of the class, I had become champion in mental arithmetic but then when my mother started drinking, I dropped out of the results and had to repeat a year because I went to a grammar school teaching business and economics. My results there weren’t fantastic and I lost my desire to educate further.

Though I eventually started Higher Education in an Engineering College in Cologne as the only woman there. But without any emotional or financial support from my family I soon fell off the planned track.

My family was a mystery to me. Nobody seemed to talk to each other, there was little emotion and no loving atmosphere. My mother finally apparently committed suicide. On an evening when both my father and my sister and I went out, my mother went to the local River Main in Wuerzburg and she was found drowned the next day.

For years and years I never understood why my mother, who was always very caring friendly and totally rational suddenly went over the edge and became an alcoholic and why my sister seemed so distant and my father so very cold. Understand this happened in the 60s.

Just prior to my fathers death – I already had been in London since 1977 – I learned that my sister actually had a sexual relationship with my father. She admitted it to me personally when I went to Wuerzburg for my dad’s funeral. My sister refused to attend the funeral because my step-mother attended but she came to see me the next morning and I asked her straight up and she admitted having had an affair with my father. My only explanation is that this is the reason why my mother started to drink because she found out about this.

It is more than unfortunate that this had not been reported to the police at the time and if it was I wasn’t told about it.

We had lived in a house in Wuerzburg in the second floor and my sister moved out of the home and gotten a flat in the fourth floor of the same house. My sister called me a cripple because of my scoliosis and told me never to have children. My sister is still alive today but we have no contact. I sent her a Christmas Card a few years ago and it was returned by the Post Office marked refused.

Over the years my sister treated me like dirt because I married the man I had my children with and she attacked me for having had those children and refused to support me in any way whatsoever.

That brings me to point 2. why I got married to the man I didn’t know.

I was in an emotional volative state of mind. I lived in Cologne, attended school and had a part-time job at the Otto Versand but emotionally I was a wreck. All those unexplained emotionally shocking events in my past, the lack of family support drove me to act irrationally.

I met a man who said he was working for the famous writer Guenther Wallraff and the man asked me whether I could help him type a book for the author. I said I could do it but would not be able to it in my flat but suggested we go to London instead for a few days as I knew a friend there. Suddenly there were money problems and I agreed to take out a loan to bridge costs. You know where this is going. Once in London the guy disappeared, the 3.000 Deutsch mark disappeared and I was crushed, ruined and totally fed up. Apparently Guenther Wallraff was interviewed by police about this but he said he had nothing to do with this whatsoever.

The guy who apparently took my money and disappeared with it was later found dead and a murder investigation ensued. The police was dealing with this and I was greateful that Deutsche Bank let me off from having to repay that 3.000 Deutsch mark loan.

However I was completely paralysed by yet another strange occurance in my life. Whilst I had the flat in Cologne waiting for me, I just could not bring myself to go back. I met my husband in a pub and fell head over heel in love. I had found a job at the BBC German service but had nowhere to live in London.

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Street pary in Longfellow Road, I lived at no 36 for some time until the whole road gotten torn down and I became a council tenant.

My husband was squatting in the famous Longfellow Road and I thought that was very romantic. Literally my brain completely stopped working, probably because of the sudden hormone over-drive I found myself in.

I insisted on getting married and had no bigger wish than having children with the man I loved. There now followed 15 years of hardship and poverty. I spent my later inheritance before I even got it but repaid all my debts once the inheritance arrived from Germany.

Now five children later I actually also have around 10 grandchildren. I have no contact with many of them. All those grandchildren were born by my daughters, my sons, went on to get jobs and approached life in a more rational manner.

Whilst I raised my kids I bought them a lot of books because I loved books. As a child I read hundreds of books. I opened up my own private library as the school didn’t have one. I borrowed books to poorer pupils who could not afford them.

Unfortunately my husband turned out to be the uneducated type. In fact he had no interest in education or reading whatsoever. That was one major contributing factor to me getting a divorce eventually. We had many arguments over life-style choices and attitutes.

The only achievement he had was being an extra in the film Fightclub. He worked as volunteer in his later years up to his death from cancer. He was never violent towards me and for that I am thankful. He probably only married me because I worked for the BBC and he loved films.

I have had 3 daughters and 2 sons from that marriage. I became naturalised and eventually a British Citizen. There was no support from my German family and especially not from my sister. My father sent birthday and Christmas cards and visited a couple of times and that was it. The rest of my family didn’t want to know.

I eventually took my sons to meet my German cousin in the remote village he lives in in Unterfranken a few years ago, so just that my sons know where I come from.

I have become completely estranged to my daughters now. All of them decided to bunk off school in the latter stages of their education and follow their father’s life philosophy. My daughters mixed up with partners but I had no say in their choices.

My second oldest daughter was born with a severe learning disability, which was – in my opinion – due to negligence during the home birth assistance. Her brain was starved of oxygen as the birth was delayed due to a sleeping pill I had been given by the midwife. Instead of delivering the baby late at night.

Unfortunately she was never given a statement of special educational needs and so her learning disabilty was never formally diagnosed until she finished with secondary education. She was found to have a mental age of a 9 year old and an IQ of 64. She never understood the purpose of education and schools just ignored her needs. I went to lawyers about this but legal action was denied as viable by a barrister because no statement of special educational needs was ever issued.

Yet this undiagnosed learning disability caused the whole family enormous problems.

I needed to care for her and worked from home for years, even starting my own company.

Nowadays children are much better off, they get Statements of Special Educational needs and lots of extra support but we had to do without.

My daughter with the learning disability was being abused by some men in the 90s without my knowledge but the police could not prosecute because of her own thinking that her abusers were her best friends. Anyhow the Director of Public Prosecution refused to prosecute the case. Of course an abused woman with a mental age of 9 would believe her abusers and think they are her best friends.

I think what people need to realise is that improving education is always the way forward. There is no good reason to attack people and especially not me for suggesting it.

I think emotional involvement often leads to distortion of facts and people just do not see the reality of the situation any longer. That now applies especially to one of my daughters who – I believe – threatened me. That matter is with the police.

Whilst I raised my children we had to live – at some point with 7 people in a 2-bedroom council flat – but that should not have led to people losing faith.

I now care for my granddaughter who has excellent grades and wants to go to university. She is good at sport and has a totally different attitude to life. She has lived with me whilst my other children moved away and so she is not exposed to the muddled way of thinking that some of my daughters adopted.

Literally these days, to make it in life, kids really need to focus on education, push away all other influences that hinder a university degree. I am now more than willing to support that.

I don’t believe that keeping secrets helps anybody. Abuse and emtional turmoil always comes to haunt those who were exposed to it and so it is that I publish the facts about  me coming to Britain and how my life here went so far.

I think that everybody should have ambitions and dreams and do their best to fulfill them. Making things better in life is one of the reasons we all live and get on.

If you read through this story and arrived at this, you will be pleased to know that I am going to be 69 years of age this year and that I despise all those who generally accuse older people of suffering from dementia or Alzheimers and having a loss of mental capacity. Older people have a lot of wisdom to give and younger people are better off listening to it.

 

 

Can’t go back

Can completely understand the sentiments of the Durrell woman, who asked herself what she did wrong, when her kids displayed an attitude attributed to single mothers in the old days.

She loved her husband and was blessed by the fact that he had died whilst she still loved him. He must have been a good man.

It is very hard to raise kids with a husband in a cvilised society if that husband is a more than liberal dreamer.

My husband turned out to be one of those and had no discipline and no ambitions.

I don’t know what’s worst; mourning a loving husband or living with a total dreamer who is incapable of earning any money.

Better to have good memories than bad ones.

Not liking hot climates, going to Greece or south of the Alps is not an option. I stick it out in Britain, though my then divorced husband died years ago of cancer.

During my marriage I was always the disciplinarian. My husband didn’t mind his five children swinging on the handles of underground traines during long journeys through London, whilst I tried my best to get them to sit down.

His favourite modern song was ‘another brick in the wall‘ by Pink Flloyd in defiance of education.

That constant state of surrealistic freedom made it hard for the children to fit in. The memory of the father who allowed everything is overpowering.

Now expectations have changed, children have no choice but to make a working life the rule and looking back to the Hippie years of the baby boomers is not an option.

The influence of the father is always very strong and nothing is harder for a parent than to overcome a non-disciplined head of the family who can’t hold down a job.

Schools should teach children the rules of life and not just subjects in the sciences and art or drama. How to earn money, how to pay bills, how to navigate society are lessons some children do not learn at home.

I found that those kids who want to listen to sensible advice are the only ones making life succesful and understand that a career is the only way to improve one’s lot.

distorting facts

whilst some Christmas advertisements promote sending gifts to remote pensioner parents or grand-parents, it is more likely that those parents and/or grandparents are expected to send gifts to the remotely living grandchildren they never see.

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Online platforms enable pictorial representation of the sweet little things that then translates into buying gifts for birthdays, Christmas, graduation etc.

Yet, distant relationships become estranged and any parent or grandparents can get a real shock when they are suddenly confronted with the actual ideology their children have.

Once a parent always a parent is no longer valid. Once we stop receiving child-benefit forthose little ones, they become legal entities in their own right and we no longer need to care.

They have moved out, make their own friends and no longer ask for approval. They do no longer need to ask for approval, as we do not have those large family homes that house generations.

We have small dwellings that house 1,2 or 3 at most. Always on the go.

Whilst parental instincts dictate the caring attitude and the: “I must safe him/her from harm and promote their prospoerity”, the kids themselves often couldn’t care less.

They are far away and use platforms like Facebook or Instagram to post those heart-melting photos that make you save up your pension for the next celebrationary gift.

They often know what you want to hear and say little else.

But if you hear something that is concerning, unlawful or outright dangerous, please do not hesitate to report them to the proper authorities and keep yourself and others safe.

Graduation gifts are reasonably good as they reward achievement and that is what parents and grandparents really should concentrate on.

 

Keeping it safe – the in-betweeners

It doesn’t matter whether its

  • Neo-nazis
  • Daesh
  • Extinction Rebellion
  • Left-wing rebels
  • Religious fanatics

They all have one thing in common. They want to destroy the current orderly organisation of society and after the breaking down of law and order implement their ideas of right and wrong.

If it wasn’t for the current furlough scheme, they would be a very big step ahead of their goals.

Whilst I keep going on about family and relationships it becomes more and more clear that in many instances, in our current modern society, ordinary working people spend less time living at the same place, working for the same employer, spending time with their family.

The average school kid these days spends around 8 hours per day in school and around 2 hours of that are used for communiting to and from school Then there are clubs and/or home work.

Whilst a parent or parents spend in excess of 8 hours working, commuting.

Very little time is actually spend together in the family unit. Kids use Apps, time online, TV watching, gaming, streaming, pod casts to entertain and form relationships away from the person to person communications among their nearest and dearest.

Extremists exploit those facts and recruit anybody who is slightly attracted to them by remote means.

The constant need to find accommodation, employment and fighting off debt collectors make building relationships very difficult indeed for a working person. And there is literally no means to actually check for truth beyond what a relative presents as truth. Remember the parents who got convictedof supporting their son’s time with Daesh, when he told them he went on a humanitarian holiday?

Long gone are the days of secure long-term tenancies in council flats, the job for life at the state owned service or local factory.

Yet the people who keep our economy going rely on short-term contracts, zero working hours to make their operatoin profitable and operational.

Whilst any abnormal event like for instance Covid-19 leads to the closing down of schools, which form the main social contact for children, the online world that recruits extremists keeps on going and never sleeps.

People now make it a habit ot organise some sort of demonstration, just to socialise with others, it has become a way of life.

Whilst law enforcement agencies are seriously behind keeping up with covert organisatoins recruting and training the new radicals, I cannot see modern governments actually being able to halt the discontent.

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The old-fashioned ideas of family, religion, have been replaced with modern legislation, which no longer puts morals or god at the forefront of their thinking.

There is no family unit that can catch up ideological uncertainties, no school that is always available and doesn’t expel delinquents, no church that actually translates old ideology into modern terms.

We are all in-betweeners. Trying to make sense of the morality of our bibles in comparison to modern laws and trying to find solace in our family units, which hardly have the time to have a meal together.

 

The consent with family

As I was ranting on about the term family being used for all kinds of amalgamations, I noticed that the distinct difference between family concepts is the matter of consent. Any child that is born into a family never gave consent for that in the first place but if you are part of a professional association that calls itself a family, you are there by consent.

Children born into families without their consent – the children’s – need to grow into the lifestyle they are encouraged to.

In our society, that means getting education and then professional development.

But, the matter of education will need consent from the child to participate in from the time, the kids can do so. If children go off the rails and refuse to attend school or get themselves into relationships, the parents do not consent to, then I would say that the relationship has broken down and parents no longer have any obligation to help out if things go pear-shaped. Of course there is the problem of providing abode for under-age kids.

I often hear that emotional black-mail that a child is part of the family but a family can only stay in tune and be successful if all members therein contribute positively to it.

Nowadays the law replaces family pressure, especially when it comes to a duty to attend education, which is provided by the state (unless parents pay for it privately). Regardless of who pays for schooling, the kids still need to attend. Parents can be held responsible and made to pay fines if children play truant.

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If a child stops attending education and gets involved in unlawful activities or anything that stops that education to result in qualifications then they are in fact in a breach of contract.

So, I don’t think that parents forever have to take the hot coals out of the fires that delinquent children have created.

Especially if that results in further off-spring with children being borne out of relationships the parents didn’t consent to in the first place.

There is no natural duty to be a parent forever regardless of what happens or what kids get themselves involved in.

Social engineering via free school travel

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Whilst I read that head teachers warn of the effect of ending free school travel for under-18s, I was reminded that the free travel to school had all along a big impact on the ability of schools to attract pupils.

Whilst being on a board that deals with dissolving Raine’s Foundation school in Bethnal Green East London, the argument that a lack of pupil numbers makes the school not viable to stay open, was dominating all considerations to approve the closure of the school.

Especially church schools as well as those catering for secondary pupils and sixth formers, rely on good transport to their schools.

During the last couple of years I went on the bus to the London Aquatic Centre for early morning swims and incidentally that same bus also transports pupils to the nearby Bobbie Moore Academy. Many of the pupils went on the bus locally to me and those pupils would potentially have applied to Raine’s Foundation had it not been for the Bobbie Moore Academy and those pupils could do so in the knowledge that the journey to the school was free as bus travel was free.

In the case of Bishop Challoner Catholic school, also many pupils take the bus to there from our area.

Social engineering has taken place through free school travel.

And whilst Tower Hamlets schools are now phasing out sport as a curriculum choice in Sixth Form, pupils have less choice to travel to schools which do still teach it.

Morpeth School became famous as provider of facility for a Table Tennis Olympic Team in 2012, but suddenly now, Morpeth has declined to teach sport in Sixth form. Raine’s affiliated to Sport England and had to close.

Parents enrol children to schools with an expectation of cost and time committment and that is along-term plan. For many parents calculating the cost of travel is very important and pulling away the rug under families’ feet to suddenly charge for travel, is quite unfair to those who heavily rely on that perk, which seems minute and small to those who have it all.

 

The u-turn

Yesterday the Prime Minister announced that all who can should go back to work but walk, cycle or use cars and avoid public transport.

All that caution about carbon emissions has been thrown to the wind for the sake of personal breathing space whilst in a car.

It’s all about direct transmissions; the government is not concerned about long-term health effects.

I remember when my kids went to Primary. In Primary, kids often get sick, the younger the more sick they got because they caught all type of germs from each other. Yet teachers preached day in and day out that the 100% attendance is very important for children’s education and ability to achieve good grades.

Now Jeremy Corbyn warns that it is not safe to get back to work and especially schooling because transmissions are rife.

The only difference is that the childhood illnesses could not be caught my teachers but Corona can.

Is there anybody making any sense?

First we were told that the government will use existing health apps to monitor the spread and potential infection risk whilst yesterday I got an email from my Covid-19 app that they have to cease operation unless they get voluntary donations to continue.

The new rule from Wednesday people who usually live together can sunbathe, play games and go on outings, using cars together. Who is going to check whether the people usually live together if enforcers are faced with lots of groups of people. A lot of people flat-share these days.

It is obviously discriminating to only allow those who have cars to travel for leisure whilst public transport is off limits but to those working.

It’s almost back to normal with the excepton of children not being allowed to school. This knock-on effect stops many people from going to work. Also I’ve heard little about sports clubs and events and training in clubs and gyms and pools.

TV ads instead of demos

Whilst Extinction Rebellion are trying to sell us their story, they do so by stopping traffic, apologetic, no less, they cause a disturbance.

They say, they need to do this, to make us aware of the climate agenda.

But, what about taking out a TV ad instead. You cannot reach more people than with a TV ad. XR got lots of money, they have extremely rich sponsors, so TV ads, should be affordable for them.

And as it is such a good cause, ITV or other commercial channels may even chip in and half the price?

Apparently the Chief Medical officer, constantly appears in between our favourite program to remind us of corona Virus dangers, he wouldn’t dream stopping traffic to remind a few drivers of the dangers.

Obviously XR want to use the issue to radicalise ‘rebel’s, teach them how to interrupt and feel good about it. They use and abuse us to train political resistance.

dream on Boris

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Whilst our Prime Minister today announced the closing of all schools from Friday PM, Boris said that children should not be looked after by grandparents, as they are more vulnerable in catching diseases.

I don’t want to use improper language in commenting but instead say that a recent YouGov poll, on behalf of Age Uk established that 40% of grandparents, over the age of 50, provided regular childcare for their grandchildren.

Either Boris wants all working parents to take an extended holiday and full government funded pay or start to become realistic to the fact that grandparents do look after children.

Additionally, there are naturally older parents, who conceived and bore children later in life.

The general attitude that all older people are unsuitable to look after children because they are more susceptible to catching Corona are cobbeles.

There are also quite a number of grandparents who took over full-time childcare because the parents are unable to do so. At least 10% of children in London looked after by family members other than the parent, so-called kinship carers.

Boris Johnson’s remarks are purely age-discriminating.

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