13 seconds

On average it takes me about 13 seconds after receipt of a phishing phone call to hang up. The same is happening about abusive phone calls.

Amazing to see that when I post some things, how long it takes for a stupid phone call to come in.

There is a clear connection.

I received one of these calls after this mornings’ posts. I leave it to anybody’s imagination where that call could have come from.

My phone numbers are widely available. Obviously anybody could be calling but motive and timing is always a giveaway.

Labour exploits policing either way

This latest Dawn Butler story, in which she blames police for racially profiling her, is simply another way to exploit policing negatively to score political Brownie points.

Remember the years of hassle I had from labour councillors and supporters over a story they ran, digging out that age-old arrest I once suffered in Germany.

Now they still blame the police for doing their job.

They practically tell them: “Dont’ stop black people or we’ll accuse you of racism”.

Who would want to vote for a political party that pressurises our law enforcement to treat people differently according to their colour?

I was never black, yet I had been arrested once. I never complained abour Racial Profiling of White people.

But, some Labout politicians now complain about profiling of black people for only stopping them.

I never complaint about police doing their job. I had a lawyer who went through a simple compensation process for wrongful arrest and imprisonment, as it is standard procedure in such cases. Colour doesn’t even come into it.

Personally I never liked colour-coded values. Black Lives matter as much as any other live matters. All lives matter!

Nobody should kneel on anybody’s neck. That is the simple message we need to get across. It doesn’t matter whether they are police or black or white.

Nobody should kneel on people’s neck.

Stop and search is a great method to reduce carrying of weapons and drugs. Simple.

Anybody can get stopped, anybody can get accused.

In the end it is an argument of time and money and how many good results police get with using the most effective methods.

As kids we were told: “The police is your friend and helper”. A much better outlook in life for a child to get rather than accusing law enforcement as the enemy of the people.

character building TV viewing

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High-rise buildings need the best materials to stay safe. Photo by Aleksandar Pasaric on Pexels.com

Last night’s Endeavour on ITV was very enjoyable. It dealt with the danger of police and council official corruption and showed the dangers police officers face each day fighting corruption.

A whole tower block collapsed because corrupt council officials allowed a builder to use inferiod concrete.

The attempts to bribe police to overlook it went to an extreme length and ended in people getting shot.

I just love a police officer who fights corruption.

The later ‘Law and Order UK’ again dealt with the difficulty of prosecuting a drug smuggling drug dealer and get the evidence needed. A man made a girl believe that he loved her and made her swallow 70 condoms filled with drugs, which killed her when one of them burst.

There was however no direct hard evidence to link the drug dealer to the mule.

But then CPS was able to prosecute him for tax fraud as he laundered the money through the accounts of his dead wife and didn’t pay tax on millions of pounds of income. That only got him a 2 year sentence but it destroyed his way of life.

I have never gotten involved in anything to do with drugs and I would strongly encourage all my  readers to stay well clear of them. The film showed the danger young people are in when they get sucked in by exploiting drug dealers who make them believe that they are loved if they only carry the drugs in their stomach.

It is a nightmare for any parent to see teenage children getting involved with partners who do not have their best interest at heart but then also realising that the children themselves are no longer interest in seeking advice from the parent. It seems to be an emotional problem that is very hard to solve in today’s free society, whereby parents cannot force their growing teenagers to do more than attend compulsory school lessons.

A lot of the morals are shown in older productions, which unfortunately do not have current technology present and often include smoking and a lot of alcohol.

 

the rogue family

watched a few episodes of‘the Durrells‘. and my hair stood up and curled. A mother takes her kids to Crete to escape British justice and the Greeks were more than welcoming.

The family gotten a free house.

There are some very charming and nice aspects to this series, like the little boy who likes nature and studies animals. Obviously a remote island is a perfect place for that.

But then there is the son who tends to get into trouble. He has this shot gun and eventually gets accussed of shooting a farmer’s turkeys. He then leaves the family home to join a gang of criminals, who employ him to shoot off the lock of a storage facility.

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Whilst the farmer failed to provide evidence of poaching of his turkeys, the judge was very sympathetic towards the Durrells and awarded them six turkeys the farmer had to supply them with.

But the allegation of the robbery was then thrown out because the mother sold her wedding ring to bribe the gang to state that the Durrell son was in fact not taking part.

This was all portrait as perfectly acceptable. The mother even gotten her wedding back from a local honoray figure – with a smile.

I just hate stuff like that. The son, then back with the family, and still trying to be up to the old tricks, had to be constantly watched. That took away a lot of resources the family could have used for positive family activities. Instead of having to play carers and behaviour police all the time, they could have played games, learned or studied instead or spent quality time visiting local theatres.

Bribery is one of the reasons why I would not want my children to mix with rich kids because if rich kids get themselves in trouble in schools, their parents can get their own children out of trouble by donating large sums into the school. But the poor kid, which gotten mixed up with problems, simply gets all the blame.

The rich kid, whose parent bribed the school, probably ends up being prime minister.

The matter of family bribery is very serious and we have to be better than the Mafia.

Media perception

How well a person is portrait in common media perception is now so important to people that many wouldn’t even dare to complain about a ‘positive media personality’.

Yesterday’s ‘Law and Order UK’ dealt with a sex pest gynaecologist who abused, tortured patients. It was extremely difficult to get a conviction for rape because everybody was absolutely mesmerised by ridiculous lies and excuses.

He was this pillar in the community figure, raised money for charity and even rape support groups. Yet, he personally saw his patients as toys and even his wife committed suicide because he was cruel to her too.

A first attempt for a rape conviction failed because no other victims came forward but the officer who happened to come across him as patient. The jury found against the women, even though she had filmed the whole thing.

The only way to get others to come forward was to arrest the doctor in front of a big media contingent, who reported about the arrest in the media so the holy perception was broken.

Why is it so difficult to see rape as rape and convict a guy? Especially in a doctor’s setting, any doctor having sex with a patient in the consulting room should be struck off without even a trial.

 

secret lies – not in the public interest

The Shamima Begum case opens old wounds for me. It has to do with lying. Apparently the parents of Shamima Begum had stated, so I believe, that they did not know that their daughter had planned and/or went to Syria to join Islamic State.

I want to know how it is possible to brainwash a child so perfectly that they won’t tell their nearest and dearest family about it.

I went through a very similar experience with my severely learning disabled daughter who kept it a perfect secret for years that she had sexual relations with a number of local Asian men who apparently had raped her.

She would not tell me about it for many years, apparently she had been convinced that she could not betray her friends, those Asian men.

As soon as I found out about the facts I went to police to report the matter. But then, the Crown Prosecution Service said that it would not be in the public interest to prosecute the case, against the protestation of the local Police Officers who wanted the prosecution to go ahead.

Apparently then later, the police didn’t mind prosecuting such cases outside of Tower Hamlets, but thy swept the problems in Tower Hamlets under the carpet.

The prosecution would have found out how it was possible that a girl could be convinced to keep something so terrible an almost perfect secret for years.

I believe similar techniques are used to groom youngsters online to join terrorist organisations.

Though I do not believe that the men who raped my daughter had something to do with terrorism, but they certainly used grooming techniques, which were totally subversive.

It should be in the national interest to prosecute Shamima Begum to find out what grooming techniques were used to get her to throw away her future for such terrible deeds.

Though in my daughter’s case it was merely sexual exploitation on a local Tower Hamlets level, in Shamima Begum’s case it involved terrible terrorist and international contexts, which have completely gone out of hand.

Therefore on second thoughts it’s slightly suspicious to me why the government wants to prevent a trial of Shamima Begum in Britain as a trial will reveal the intelligence behind the problem. The intelligence services could have found out about grooming techniques had they looked further into the case of my learning disabled daughter who fell victim of such groomers as long as 20 years ago, when the CPS made their best effort to ignore the problem.

I don’t think that Shamima Begum should be entitled to British Citizenship but a trial could produce definite legal presedence for the many ex-British terrorists who joined Islamic State at the time and they must be shown that they no longer have a right to return here and that law has to stand up to future scrutiny as well.

Tower Hamlets a breeding ground for nonsense

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Remember people knives are for cooking not for violence. Photo by Lukas on Pexels.com

Having to live in Tower Hamlets comes with a great amount of displeasure. Some people used to sniff their noses at me at other locations in Britain when they heard that I reside in the borough.

A former employer dismissed my status as Neighbourhood Watch coordinator in ‘Tower Hamlets’ as something inferior to other boroughs.

How comes that young school girls feels empowerd to leave the country and join Islamic State undetected from their parents, friends or family?

Young girls are normally not that good in keeping secrets. They can lie but then they would need to feel a certain amount of safety and security prior to getting engaged in plans concerning their future.

But I do admit that girls who are involved with some Asian lads are extremely good in lying. One of my daughters gotten raped by a group of Asian men for years but she always lied to me about this. The police failed to prosecute the matter and so the rapists think they can get away with stuff like that in Tower Hamlets.

My current adopted child said she received threats to get stabbed from pupils of a school mainly used by Muslim pupils, if she considers attending there.

There is documented evidence from Church of England pupils who received similar threats.

My own daughter, now in her thirties threatened to slash my throat if I only mention my grandson’s name ever again. This led me to ask the lads dad to apply for sole custody of the boy.

How can a white girl get to use such language unless they live in a borough where such threats are common place? What normal daughter would threaten her own mother like that?

I am now estranged from my daughter who made those THREATS but that didn’t stop the council’s social services to ring me and ask wether I wanted remedial negotiations with my daugher and counselling to repair the relationship.

I refused, my own daughter didn’t even apologize to me. I rather forfeit the relationship with my own daughter rather than have threats and bad language to put up with.

Therefore it is quite understandable to me that the government now seeks to consider changes to legal aid rules, which enable people, who’ve had their citizenship removed for national security reasons, to use our legal aid to get to appeal to the national courts for Judicial Review.

Apparently the last interview I saw from Shamima Begum’s dad was when he was in Bangladesh. So if she has a father in Bangladesh why does she want to come back to Britain? Perhaps only Tower Hamlets would make her feel welcome.

I think our local MP Rushanara Ali has spoken up in her support. I have my own struggle with Rushanara who does very little to get the infra-structure of our local area, which houses the school, at which Shamima Begum attended modernised.

We had our local Church of England school closed in favour of council schools, which are mainly used by Muslim pupils.

The cultural changes here in Tower Hamlets are very fundamental. Cultural development is a very big driver for national security and community development.

However a trial of Shamima Begum in Great Britain would at least mean an in-depth investigation how it was possible that those girls could communicate so subversively with members of Islamic State and flee our country to join them.

The underwear rule

Last night’s ‘Law and Order UK’ was excellent as usual. It dealt with the respectable husband who first abused his own daughter and then ended up killing her best friend a boy from the neighbourhood.

Law and Order UK is staffed by top knotch actor with Bradley Walsh in the lead and is a very compacted one-hour program, which explains the crime, the investigation and the trial. Brilliantly made and very important messages in the films.

The program is on at 22:00 weekdays and I can’t find it on the ITV player listed. It’s well worth dropping everything just to watch this live on ITV as it is on tele.

Yesteray’s episodes dealth with abuse from within the family and/or close neighbours. This type of abuse doesn’t get talked about a lot. Many people – including me – don’t even realise that they are being abused because it is a trusted family member or close friend and because we want to keep that feeling of Being Family alive in our minds. We tend to brush away all doubts to stay positive towards our family.

The family concept gets pushed a lot by various organisations these days as being part of a family seems to be the most desired goal in life for many.

In yesterday’s episode the surviving abused child took over 20 years to realised that she had been abused and then only under some sort of hypnosis, that is how strong the feeling was. The case was only investigated because the murdered body of a victim had been found 20 years later.

My recognition took longer. I must say, I was never abused by my dad but I was abused by my sister who had me sexed by a man and made me watch her own sexual conduct; What happend physically was 50 years ago and nobody got murdered and psychological abuse took place over the years.

I was a victim of a chain-reaction of abuse. My sister was abused by my dad and they had an incesteous relationship. This drove my mother into suicide. My sister was never able to build normal relationships with men and to this day is unable to talk about things and she keeps on being horrible to me. This all took me a life-time to find out.

It digs itself into the sub-conscience and I didn’t realise how much the events actually formed my life and decision-making process over the years.

Of course all events are very ancient and no police force would investigate it without further evidence of a crime. Such soft cases do not bring any results with police unless it has public appeal like the #MeToo# movement had, which involved very prominent actors.

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I think not enough is done to make people aware of soft abuse in family and friends. We have the ‘underwear rule’ being taught to pupils these days, that is about the only measure being taken by schools these days. We didn’t have any awareness campaign when I was a kid.

Much more needs to be done to make children aware of abuse from family and friends. More people need to write and publish about the issue so that kids can find those stories on the internet and learn from them.

 

morals or steady relationship no longer the issue

I don’t really care about gender issues, as it is anybody’s free choice, what I am concerned about is that the reduction of steady relationships systematically breaks down the security of our country and society.

  1. the more kids you have, the more friends they acquire from backgrounds you do not really know much about. You also are not able to stop your children from going out as it is against the law and seen as keeping someone hostage against their will. You are not even legally able to stop your child from going out, even if they are drug addicts and only want more drugs.
  2. the more kids you have from different partners, the less you know what outside influences they are under and your own personal integrity gets endangered.

To 1. The best example to this is my learning disabled daughter, who was never formally statemented whilst at school. She always completely lied how she spend her time, until she was pregnant and not even then did she tell me the truth about her relationships until years later. But hat is OK under the law as it has to do with personal freedom and privacy.

To 2. If you are in a security sensitive occupation, all those relationships various partners and children and their relatives form, combined with less financial seucrity because all these extra children cost extra money, weaken your own secure lifestyle. You just imagine how many more people you share your life experiences with if you have several children from severeal partners who in turn also have relatives and friends attached to them. You become more susceptible to corruption.

I don’t think that just having a job is the issue any longer. Just having a job doesn’t solve people’s problems with forming good relationships in their personal lives and keep steady and secure relationships going.

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Less secure housing, less secure jobs, less steady relationships but an increase in gang culture and crime.

According to the Guardian in 2002 a third of British men had a criminal record. That does not include cautions.

The more people divorce, the less steady and secure becomes the world the children live in. The more people change partners the more do the children from these relationships have to adjust to constantly changing social issues whilst that takes away from their ability to concentrate on learning.

self-esteem and inheritance

Watched ‘Rambo, last blood’ last night and the story is not dissimilar to a story line inthe Sinner where Cora Tannetti gets kidnapped drugged and abused. In the Sinner it was to make Cora forget that she saw a murder but in Rambo it was a prostitution racket.

Apparently Rambo’s adopted daughter had everything going for her, she had a big house, her own car and was about to start university when she asked a ‘friend’ to find out where her natural father lived.

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This desire to meet birth parents is the worst irrational emotional mistake a child can make. I still have not found out why they even would want to do it.

Perhaps it has to do with hearing friends talking about mums and dads. Many kids are adopted and do not know they were but it’s just the atmosphere the problems the adoptive parents themselves have between them and the conversations children overhear that make them wonder whether that birth parent is the path out of all problems.

Baby-boomers of the 80s are replaced now with rich parents who can afford to pay for surrogacy. That new generation of surrogate babies will grow up and will find out that they have been bought.

I saw a lot of films and documentaries dealing with the problems it caused when children suddenly found out that they are not actually the natural children of the people they live with.

Anyhow the birth father of Rambo’s daughter was not the least bit interested in the child, which then ended in tears for her and the suggestion by her friend to go to a fun evening to a night-club, where she was drugged immediately and put on heroin and put into a pool of prostitutes. All the girls were made dependant on regular heroin injections to keep them on the job. Threats of getting them killed kept them in their place.

The effort men make to have regular intercourse. They stop at nothing. Those bordellos are hotbeds for germs and diseases.

It is up to the society to make the rules and to ensure that nobody gets enslaved into any type of trade. A society is only as good as it’s weakest member. If the politicians allow slavery and exploitation to happen then it will.

Rambo of course managed to kill a whole army of drug dealers by himself, though his daughter was in her grave by that time already.

I do not understand why he drove her in the car and did not bring her to a doctor first thing after freeing her from the drug pushers. She died on the way home, having been filled with drugs. I reckon a hospital bed could have saved her.

But then I suppose he was more interested in his own ego being bruised. In the end the fight between him and the crime brothers was just about themselves, to see who was stronger.

I reckon every parent feels deceived if kids just run off and drop out of the chosen path for them.

I think how many years I put into caring for my children. In the end, there is nothing else to do but to try and care for off-spring. Therefore it is now better that women get encouraged to get jobs whilst also being mothers. Because there is something else to do but looking after the little ones.

Parents easily get sucked into the caring pose and promptly get exploited by children who ask for those extra treats to keep them happy.

But parents who also have jobs are probably better equipped to stave off lazy kids who just want to have an easy ride.

Most importantly adoptive parents should always tell their children that they are adopted or otherwise acquired. The reality of knowing the facts helps a lot if things come to a crunch. Because not even the relationships of adoptive parents are guaranteed never to go wrong. What if the arguments set in and the adopted kids get exposed to the quarrels of the parents later on?

Ideally children need to get the ability to work out their path into live on a rational basis. Any type of emotional trauma only serves them wrong.

I think those parent-child relationships whereby all work together on a family business probably have the best chance of success for longivity. What often keeps kids friendly with parents is the prospect of inheriting the house. I really think that inheritance laws should change in that relatives should not have an automatic right to inherit because they are some document like a birth certificate or related through marriage.

Unless a person specifically names a person as beneficiary of a will, anybody who has no actual connection to a person should not be able to inherit the property or money. I see those heir hunters who try to find long lost relatives to inherit. That should go to charity instead because the long lost relative is actually like any other stranger to the deceased.

It’s all about building relationships.

 

 

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