Don’t do to others

what you do not want done to yourself, is the simple moral out of yesterday’s ‘Law and Order UK’ storyline.

A gay police officer was shot by a drug dealer and bled to death within 4 minutes as a major arthery was hit. His colleague, who happened to hate gays, was prosecuted for not helping because he put out anti-gay leaflets.

If that had been the other way around, the jury still would have found the defendant police officer not guilty because it was a life and death window of only 4 minutes.

There were two reasons for that:

  • The accused police officer for not helping could not have been able to save the shot officer because he may not have had the medical knowlede to do so. If somebody bleeds out within 4 minutes that must have been an extremely severe injury.
  • There was still an armed criminal on the scene who could have shot the officer who was waiting for back-up, which was also late.

I have seen loads of films where officers were not helping because they are told to wait for back-up. They are told not to endanger themselves when an armed criminal is around.

What I find disappointing in this context is that the CPS took so much effort into prosecuting this case when there are a lot of other deserving cases around.

In the end any officer can find excuses not to help a fellow officer but that sets a bad example and all officers who do not help each other for some reason or another or in retaliation only put themselves and their whole force in jeopardy.

Because remember officers are there to uphold the law and if criminals get support by officers not helping each other then the whole job is made that little bit harder.

I can’t really compare this with real cases as the series is purely fictonal.

But why get so hung up over gay or not gay situations. Personally I could not care less what orientation a person is because if I do not have a relationship with a person, I really do not want to know about their bedroom habits. What counts is the job and the aim of the job and not who somebody fancies.

All in all very disappointing.

Media perception

How well a person is portrait in common media perception is now so important to people that many wouldn’t even dare to complain about a ‘positive media personality’.

Yesterday’s ‘Law and Order UK’ dealt with a sex pest gynaecologist who abused, tortured patients. It was extremely difficult to get a conviction for rape because everybody was absolutely mesmerised by ridiculous lies and excuses.

He was this pillar in the community figure, raised money for charity and even rape support groups. Yet, he personally saw his patients as toys and even his wife committed suicide because he was cruel to her too.

A first attempt for a rape conviction failed because no other victims came forward but the officer who happened to come across him as patient. The jury found against the women, even though she had filmed the whole thing.

The only way to get others to come forward was to arrest the doctor in front of a big media contingent, who reported about the arrest in the media so the holy perception was broken.

Why is it so difficult to see rape as rape and convict a guy? Especially in a doctor’s setting, any doctor having sex with a patient in the consulting room should be struck off without even a trial.

 

UK v. China

The latest diplomatic row is merely based on the territorial dispute around Hong Kong. It makes sense to discharge the Extradition deal on that basis. The UK can hardly be expected to extradite protesters from Hong Kong, which fled to the UK or associated territories.

I just don’t like that the discussion gets based around policies to do with repression of populations in China.

Both China and the UK have policies to reduce population growth.

China houses people but doesn’t allow them to have children, whilst the UK doesn’t house people and allows them to have children.

On my council estate a lot of the 1-bed or 2-bed flats are occupied by single house buyers. Those flats would have been allocated to young mothers or young families who were given a start in life with their children.

As these flats were taken off the social housing register by selling them, we have in effect made it impossible for poor young couples with children to get social housing as easily as it used to be.

Also people who bought a small flat, let’s say 1-bed, they then decide to have kids. The flat soon becomes too small but they work in a town. They cannot sell the flat and buy a bigger one in the same location. They cannot move away without losing the job, so they are trapped in that small flat with children.

Yet the bedroom tax does not solve those problems, yet some Labour politicians do not argue to get rid of it. Overall the decision to sell council flats was the worst decision ever made. Removing the pool of council flats restricted choices for most.

In effect Chinese and British policy has a similar outcome. Only difference is in Britain if you manage to get rich, you can have as many children as you can afford whilst in China, they restrict children to almost all but now rural populations.

There we have the class inequality again that two-class sytem is alive and well in Britain.

As Tony Blair is just as enthusiastic about Margaret Thatcher as Boris Johnson is, the consensus of stopping the poor in Britain from having kids is not just in the domain of the Conservatives.

Hence Labour does not have a policy that is defending the poor to have equal rights for all, so for many, there is little point in voting for Labour.

the Eureka moment

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Just having this Bingo feeling. The pain from my Arthrities in my knee woke me up early. One of two medical conditions I do not get any medical treatment for and which keep me unable to do much but blog. Firstly I got the arthrities in the knee and secondly I can’t wear my denture and I am toothless, which makes me less than photogenic.

So I blog.

There was a moment when my mind started associating things, namely when I learned that the father of Shamima Begum is in Bangladesh. Apparently one of the suspected rapists of my daughter also originates from Bangladesh, so I believe. I have some nice pics of two of the men who were accused by her of being rapists but they had expensive cars, sports coupees and they weren’t the run of the mill local lads. They drove BMW’s.

Could that have been one of the reasons why the CPS didn’t want to prosecute them?

But so far, we never associated anything to do with ISIS with Bangladesh at all.

Well of course the testimony of a learning disabled person is always difficult to believe but there we are. But then, when my daughter was in school they never even bothered to even give her an assessment or statement of special educational needs.

It just seems that the parents are the last people to find out about what is actually going on.

The second thing that alarmed me was when I watched the interview with the Chinese Ambassador on the Andrew Marr show yesterday. He was shown a pic or film of ethnic people being driven to a camp and women of being forcibly sterilised.

Of course here in Britain we do not forcibly sterilise women, we just make it very hard for them to get benefits and somewhere to live with their children.

I believe the Chinese Ambassador when he says, they treat all people equal, equally bad he should have said. They do have the one-child policy for anyone in cities.

Talking of equality. When I came to Britain women were equally pushed into child-bearing with generous benefits and easy housing. Now they are relentlessly prevented from having lots of kids by making benefits very difficult and housing even harder to get.

One could argue that sterilisation is one option to stop women from having lots of kids so they do not need housing or benefits but can work instead. So whilst the Chinese may carry out these procedures, the British attitude is not to intervene physically and so direct but indirect by policy instead.

But, to say the truth, my learning disabled daughter has now been sterilised here in Britain, so I have heard, as she has problems coping with further pregnancies and making sensible choices.

So there are those policies and diplomacies that seem to override directly naming and shaming what is actually going on.

secret lies – not in the public interest

The Shamima Begum case opens old wounds for me. It has to do with lying. Apparently the parents of Shamima Begum had stated, so I believe, that they did not know that their daughter had planned and/or went to Syria to join Islamic State.

I want to know how it is possible to brainwash a child so perfectly that they won’t tell their nearest and dearest family about it.

I went through a very similar experience with my severely learning disabled daughter who kept it a perfect secret for years that she had sexual relations with a number of local Asian men who apparently had raped her.

She would not tell me about it for many years, apparently she had been convinced that she could not betray her friends, those Asian men.

As soon as I found out about the facts I went to police to report the matter. But then, the Crown Prosecution Service said that it would not be in the public interest to prosecute the case, against the protestation of the local Police Officers who wanted the prosecution to go ahead.

Apparently then later, the police didn’t mind prosecuting such cases outside of Tower Hamlets, but thy swept the problems in Tower Hamlets under the carpet.

The prosecution would have found out how it was possible that a girl could be convinced to keep something so terrible an almost perfect secret for years.

I believe similar techniques are used to groom youngsters online to join terrorist organisations.

Though I do not believe that the men who raped my daughter had something to do with terrorism, but they certainly used grooming techniques, which were totally subversive.

It should be in the national interest to prosecute Shamima Begum to find out what grooming techniques were used to get her to throw away her future for such terrible deeds.

Though in my daughter’s case it was merely sexual exploitation on a local Tower Hamlets level, in Shamima Begum’s case it involved terrible terrorist and international contexts, which have completely gone out of hand.

Therefore on second thoughts it’s slightly suspicious to me why the government wants to prevent a trial of Shamima Begum in Britain as a trial will reveal the intelligence behind the problem. The intelligence services could have found out about grooming techniques had they looked further into the case of my learning disabled daughter who fell victim of such groomers as long as 20 years ago, when the CPS made their best effort to ignore the problem.

I don’t think that Shamima Begum should be entitled to British Citizenship but a trial could produce definite legal presedence for the many ex-British terrorists who joined Islamic State at the time and they must be shown that they no longer have a right to return here and that law has to stand up to future scrutiny as well.

Tower Hamlets a breeding ground for nonsense

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Remember people knives are for cooking not for violence. Photo by Lukas on Pexels.com

Having to live in Tower Hamlets comes with a great amount of displeasure. Some people used to sniff their noses at me at other locations in Britain when they heard that I reside in the borough.

A former employer dismissed my status as Neighbourhood Watch coordinator in ‘Tower Hamlets’ as something inferior to other boroughs.

How comes that young school girls feels empowerd to leave the country and join Islamic State undetected from their parents, friends or family?

Young girls are normally not that good in keeping secrets. They can lie but then they would need to feel a certain amount of safety and security prior to getting engaged in plans concerning their future.

But I do admit that girls who are involved with some Asian lads are extremely good in lying. One of my daughters gotten raped by a group of Asian men for years but she always lied to me about this. The police failed to prosecute the matter and so the rapists think they can get away with stuff like that in Tower Hamlets.

My current adopted child said she received threats to get stabbed from pupils of a school mainly used by Muslim pupils, if she considers attending there.

There is documented evidence from Church of England pupils who received similar threats.

My own daughter, now in her thirties threatened to slash my throat if I only mention my grandson’s name ever again. This led me to ask the lads dad to apply for sole custody of the boy.

How can a white girl get to use such language unless they live in a borough where such threats are common place? What normal daughter would threaten her own mother like that?

I am now estranged from my daughter who made those THREATS but that didn’t stop the council’s social services to ring me and ask wether I wanted remedial negotiations with my daugher and counselling to repair the relationship.

I refused, my own daughter didn’t even apologize to me. I rather forfeit the relationship with my own daughter rather than have threats and bad language to put up with.

Therefore it is quite understandable to me that the government now seeks to consider changes to legal aid rules, which enable people, who’ve had their citizenship removed for national security reasons, to use our legal aid to get to appeal to the national courts for Judicial Review.

Apparently the last interview I saw from Shamima Begum’s dad was when he was in Bangladesh. So if she has a father in Bangladesh why does she want to come back to Britain? Perhaps only Tower Hamlets would make her feel welcome.

I think our local MP Rushanara Ali has spoken up in her support. I have my own struggle with Rushanara who does very little to get the infra-structure of our local area, which houses the school, at which Shamima Begum attended modernised.

We had our local Church of England school closed in favour of council schools, which are mainly used by Muslim pupils.

The cultural changes here in Tower Hamlets are very fundamental. Cultural development is a very big driver for national security and community development.

However a trial of Shamima Begum in Great Britain would at least mean an in-depth investigation how it was possible that those girls could communicate so subversively with members of Islamic State and flee our country to join them.

The underwear rule

Last night’s ‘Law and Order UK’ was excellent as usual. It dealt with the respectable husband who first abused his own daughter and then ended up killing her best friend a boy from the neighbourhood.

Law and Order UK is staffed by top knotch actor with Bradley Walsh in the lead and is a very compacted one-hour program, which explains the crime, the investigation and the trial. Brilliantly made and very important messages in the films.

The program is on at 22:00 weekdays and I can’t find it on the ITV player listed. It’s well worth dropping everything just to watch this live on ITV as it is on tele.

Yesteray’s episodes dealth with abuse from within the family and/or close neighbours. This type of abuse doesn’t get talked about a lot. Many people – including me – don’t even realise that they are being abused because it is a trusted family member or close friend and because we want to keep that feeling of Being Family alive in our minds. We tend to brush away all doubts to stay positive towards our family.

The family concept gets pushed a lot by various organisations these days as being part of a family seems to be the most desired goal in life for many.

In yesterday’s episode the surviving abused child took over 20 years to realised that she had been abused and then only under some sort of hypnosis, that is how strong the feeling was. The case was only investigated because the murdered body of a victim had been found 20 years later.

My recognition took longer. I must say, I was never abused by my dad but I was abused by my sister who had me sexed by a man and made me watch her own sexual conduct; What happend physically was 50 years ago and nobody got murdered and psychological abuse took place over the years.

I was a victim of a chain-reaction of abuse. My sister was abused by my dad and they had an incesteous relationship. This drove my mother into suicide. My sister was never able to build normal relationships with men and to this day is unable to talk about things and she keeps on being horrible to me. This all took me a life-time to find out.

It digs itself into the sub-conscience and I didn’t realise how much the events actually formed my life and decision-making process over the years.

Of course all events are very ancient and no police force would investigate it without further evidence of a crime. Such soft cases do not bring any results with police unless it has public appeal like the #MeToo# movement had, which involved very prominent actors.

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I think not enough is done to make people aware of soft abuse in family and friends. We have the ‘underwear rule’ being taught to pupils these days, that is about the only measure being taken by schools these days. We didn’t have any awareness campaign when I was a kid.

Much more needs to be done to make children aware of abuse from family and friends. More people need to write and publish about the issue so that kids can find those stories on the internet and learn from them.

 

No wonder pupil numbers drop

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Chest Hospital remains boarded up

Raising a child in Tower Hamlets has become just that little bit more difficult now, with Shamima Begum and her other friends being raised in our immediate neighbourhood, I cannot help wondering what her return to Britain will bring. Her family must be from Tower Hamlets or she would not have gone to a Secondary in Old Bethnal Green Road.

It’s really bad if not just one but three mainstream pupils from a council run Secondary school leave the country to join a terrorist organisation.

But, this reflects the demographic in this borough. And now, Tower Hamlets Council is very busy closing schools because of falling pupil numbers.

I won’t send my child to a Sixth form in Tower Hamlets either. As far as I understand Sixth Forms in Tower Hamlets fail to attract the high number of brightest pupils they need to expand.

I shall send my child rather to Hackney than educate in Tower Hamlets.

Because of the pupil mix Tower Hamlets now even reduces sports education sharply. It’s a very sad state of affairs.

I am constantly writing to my Member of parliament because of many maintenance issues.

Just looking at the former Chest Hospital. Every time I walk past I need to look at the constantly decaying buildings within and nothing gets done at all. It would be better to develop the site. I definitely prefer shiny new buildings instead of crumbling bricks to look at.

 

morals or steady relationship no longer the issue

I don’t really care about gender issues, as it is anybody’s free choice, what I am concerned about is that the reduction of steady relationships systematically breaks down the security of our country and society.

  1. the more kids you have, the more friends they acquire from backgrounds you do not really know much about. You also are not able to stop your children from going out as it is against the law and seen as keeping someone hostage against their will. You are not even legally able to stop your child from going out, even if they are drug addicts and only want more drugs.
  2. the more kids you have from different partners, the less you know what outside influences they are under and your own personal integrity gets endangered.

To 1. The best example to this is my learning disabled daughter, who was never formally statemented whilst at school. She always completely lied how she spend her time, until she was pregnant and not even then did she tell me the truth about her relationships until years later. But hat is OK under the law as it has to do with personal freedom and privacy.

To 2. If you are in a security sensitive occupation, all those relationships various partners and children and their relatives form, combined with less financial seucrity because all these extra children cost extra money, weaken your own secure lifestyle. You just imagine how many more people you share your life experiences with if you have several children from severeal partners who in turn also have relatives and friends attached to them. You become more susceptible to corruption.

I don’t think that just having a job is the issue any longer. Just having a job doesn’t solve people’s problems with forming good relationships in their personal lives and keep steady and secure relationships going.

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Less secure housing, less secure jobs, less steady relationships but an increase in gang culture and crime.

According to the Guardian in 2002 a third of British men had a criminal record. That does not include cautions.

The more people divorce, the less steady and secure becomes the world the children live in. The more people change partners the more do the children from these relationships have to adjust to constantly changing social issues whilst that takes away from their ability to concentrate on learning.

Evil sisters

As in yesterday’s post hinted, girls can become enslaved and/or exploited through other girls. The Cora story showed that it was actually her ‘disabled’ poorly sister that got her into male relationships to make money for a dream holiday. Cora was always made to feel responsible for her sister’s disability and probably complied to not disappoint her poorly sister further.

In my relationship with my sister, I was the more disabled one but she was the one who gotten me into the trouble-some problems.

My sister was short of evil. She had a relationship with my dad, and then has countless lovers all over her holiday stays. She goes on holiday at least 3 times per year. She now suffers from nerves in her old age. She must be nearly 80 now.

My sister is responsible for me losing my virginity at just above age 16. She literally took me on a holiday to Yugoslavia and organised men to make love both to her and me. I never had sex previously and was totally not expecting this and after that first encounter refused to take part.

Yet that casual attitude to sex and the sickening attitude towards it is responsible why I moved out from home. I wanted to get away from the bad atmosphere.

My sister is not only responsible for losing my virginity but also for me starting to smoke.

She took me on a holiday to Yugoslavia and organised a bloke to make love to me, whilst she had another guy and she did it anywhere, in Fig orchards in broad daylight.

I was naive and the guy took me to the beach at night and then insisted on seeing my towel to proof that he took my virginity. I am now wondering whether he gave my sister money for it.

After that I refused any further attempts from blokes my sister introduced me to.

She did this all her life, having boyfriends and not being able to conceive because she had her womb removed due to an ectopic pregnancy, whilst she had a relationship with a married man, she could carry on like that all her life and keep lovers at holiday destinations. They kept on writing her letters and tried to let them come to Germany to stay with her from Greece or the like but she never allowed them to come. She just went to another destination next time.

She kept a consignment of wigs because men would follow her to work, as she worked behind the counter at the post office.

So what I am trying to say, that if you are exposed to bad influences from your own family, then you have little chance of overcoming that. And if your family is supposed to be respectable, you have nowhere to turn to as you have to keep the secrets.

Especially as school hours in Germany were much shorter, it was only a half-day ending at around 13.00. You are then exposed much longer to bad parents or evil siblings.

My mother was totally depessed and an alcoholic whilst my sister was a man-eating nympth. I don’t even think she was a victim of my dad, as she wanted sex whenever she could and even moved 2 floors up, so she could be together with my dad. She never complained about it to police (as far as I know).

I don’t even care if my sister – who is still alive – reads this because the burden of knowing this and nothing ever having been done about it, is just about too much for me to carry around.

The ‘MeToo’ movement seems to care a lot about abuse and exploitation in the work place but I have never been exploited in the workplace I had to cope with incest (even though I didn’t know it at the time) and a sex made sister who gotten me into bad habits.

I think you just don’t talk about that out of embarrassment but I really do not care any longer. My sister severely critised me for getting married and having children. And even though it wasn’t a respectable (respectable in her view) marriage to a rich man, at least it was a marriage and it was decent – from my part of it – and the children borne were not perfect but we did our best.

My sister now refuses to speak with me because I lived on benefits mostly, since I got married, but really what is bad about having some morals? My sister even wanted to prevent me from getting my share of my father’s inheritance and tried to make me agree that my share gets paid to her; she is a money-grabbing no-good sister.  I had to fight her lawyer for months to get my share of the money.

She has tons of money and sits on it. I reckon she should pay the state for all the benefits they had to fork out for me claiming all those years as it is her who produced a lot of the trauma.

I think my life in Britain would have gone different would I have been able to have a normal relationships with my sister and family. As it was, I just had kids with a husband who was work-shy. He only loved films.

We have very few children in our German family, everybody was always working and nobody had any kids.

I am now not interested in any type of relationships to do with intimacy with anyone. I suppose I would not have had much interest in sex ever, would it not have been for my sister introducing me to it.

I just know that any trouble I gotten myself into in my life was because I needed to get away from home and that gotten my into contact with people I shared flats with and met whilst trying to find jobs and getting settled. You just couch-surf to have somewhere to sleep.

Perhaps our crime-rates today are partially due to bad family relationships, which breed anti-social behaviour in people.

Of course the law has forbidden forced marriage and domestic violence but what happened to me is not against the law unless somebody complains about it.

But in many families keeping to the letter of the law is not the first priority. If it was society would be in a better state than it is.

 

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