Having a very peaceful time

Christmas flowers

This Christmas is turning out a major source of rest and peace for us. I love it when shops are closed on Boxing Day, as it used to be. This closure emphasizes the restful period we have.

Putting up Christmas lights makes the house look warm and cosy. That’s what I love most about Christmas, which I now see as a festival to break up the long boring winter.

All the people wishing me Happy Christmas mean well and I thank them very much.

I actually managed to get my daughter to like Christmas Pudding this year. Bought only a small, one portion one and with double cream it tasted good.

Again this year, I went for a fruity theme. More fruit than cake and sweets.

I would love to share this wonderful time- at least remotely with my other children and grandchildren but can’t force them to contact me. There is plenty of opportunity to use Teams or other applications but they just don’t seem to want to need me at Christmas.

I do not want to buy their love with gifts. I think gifts should be an expression of feeling good about each other and not a bribe. So, I have not bought any gifts for my kids and grand kids from whom I didn’t hear anything all year, with the exception of some abusive phone calls.

Whatever brings one of my children to do that, I do not know but I can’t help those who do not want to be helped.

I’ve always done my utmost to assist. Whatever makes children not need their parents any longer is beyond me. I thought it is part of the natural human nature to try and stay connected with relatives. Most of us can’t help thinking about their parents, their childhood, their youth and all the stages of life. So why try to cut it out of one’s memory.

No home-made cake for me this year. Trying to keep up the good weight..

Surely my grandchildren will be asking their parents where the grand mother or father is and I really do not know what my kids tell their children why I can’t see them. I have not come to the bottom of this yet, why all my kids do no longer want to be in contact with me. I certainly haven’t done anything dreadful to them.

Perhaps because my grandchildren are all still quite young as I started having children quite late in life, they can’t make their own enquiries yet. But once they get older, the Internet must be leaving some clues.

making false hopes for Christmas

We all want to have a good time over the Winter holiday. Nice decorated homes, well cooked meals and some good will never goes amiss, regardless of religion.

But, to use Christmas to show extra generosity and make people believe that Covid-19 can be ignored to have family get-to-gethers when all reasonable expectations are that this will lead to another total lock-down, just about put a dampener on everybody’s enjoyment.

It’s also got a really racist or better religionist tint to it. The government wouldn’t even dream of extra lenience for any other religios festivals at this time of year and declared Christmas the one time, we are allowed to let our guard down.

decision-making process

Emotional dependance is often the cause of people getting themselves involved with criminal people, who manipulate a person to commit to wrong-doing systematically.

On the other hand, quick thinking and getting involved would have saved me £10 on the Lidl Christmas jumper.

Yesterday it was in the shelves for £7.99, I walked past and today it wasn’t there was I wanted it. So I had to spend £18.10 to get it from eBay.

Since I do a lot of shopping in Lidl, which is just across the road from me, I didn’t realise how much I needed to get this jumper to make my Christmas feel OK. That’s a form of emotional dependance.

Whilst I now watch a Panorama film about an American woman going to Syria with her husband and getting back – after he had been killed in Syria – to the US and being prosecuted for terrorism. Title: “return from Isis”.

I am grateful that my emotional dependance, at it’s worst, only ever got me to spend extra money for a Lidl Christmas jumper, whilst otherwise I am much to do about law and order in Britain.

If it was against the law to go shopping in Lidl, as a former EU trading partner, I probably woulnd’t do it, but is is lawful and so its’ OK to do it.

Unfortunately not all people think whether their actions are lawful and get themselves involved in wrong-doing, that becomes unravelled over time and leads to imprisonment or worst.

Unfortunately the BBC serial East Enders is much more positive about involvement with crime in Britain and doesn’t show the pitfalls of doing wrong as clearly as they show the pitfalls of getting involved with Isis, ending up in death and imprisonment.

I think that American woman could raise the funds to get back from Syria with her children, whilst Shamima Begum, currently can’t raise the money or facilitate her return and she is being prevented from coming baack and also her children had died in Syria.

If young people only tought advice from their peers prior to making life-changing decisions, that would save them a lot of problems and prevent loss of life.

Christmas lights in Tower Hamlets

Quite interestingly this list provides a full breakdown of Christmas light spending of local councils.  It shows that Tower Hamlets did not cut down on spending, it remained steady on £50.000. Though from personal observation it seems clear to me that the council has just changed the location of spending the 50K.

Because the lights in Bethnal Green Road for example seem much thinner and dimmer than last year whilst the tree in the Homeless section of Roman Road shows luxurious bows and baubles.  Overall the street lightning seems to become a chore of the businesses in an area.

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