Evil sisters

As in yesterday’s post hinted, girls can become enslaved and/or exploited through other girls. The Cora story showed that it was actually her ‘disabled’ poorly sister that got her into male relationships to make money for a dream holiday. Cora was always made to feel responsible for her sister’s disability and probably complied to not disappoint her poorly sister further.

In my relationship with my sister, I was the more disabled one but she was the one who gotten me into the trouble-some problems.

My sister was short of evil. She had a relationship with my dad, and then has countless lovers all over her holiday stays. She goes on holiday at least 3 times per year. She now suffers from nerves in her old age. She must be nearly 80 now.

My sister is responsible for me losing my virginity at just above age 16. She literally took me on a holiday to Yugoslavia and organised men to make love both to her and me. I never had sex previously and was totally not expecting this and after that first encounter refused to take part.

Yet that casual attitude to sex and the sickening attitude towards it is responsible why I moved out from home. I wanted to get away from the bad atmosphere.

My sister is not only responsible for losing my virginity but also for me starting to smoke.

She took me on a holiday to Yugoslavia and organised a bloke to make love to me, whilst she had another guy and she did it anywhere, in Fig orchards in broad daylight.

I was naive and the guy took me to the beach at night and then insisted on seeing my towel to proof that he took my virginity. I am now wondering whether he gave my sister money for it.

After that I refused any further attempts from blokes my sister introduced me to.

She did this all her life, having boyfriends and not being able to conceive because she had her womb removed due to an ectopic pregnancy, whilst she had a relationship with a married man, she could carry on like that all her life and keep lovers at holiday destinations. They kept on writing her letters and tried to let them come to Germany to stay with her from Greece or the like but she never allowed them to come. She just went to another destination next time.

She kept a consignment of wigs because men would follow her to work, as she worked behind the counter at the post office.

So what I am trying to say, that if you are exposed to bad influences from your own family, then you have little chance of overcoming that. And if your family is supposed to be respectable, you have nowhere to turn to as you have to keep the secrets.

Especially as school hours in Germany were much shorter, it was only a half-day ending at around 13.00. You are then exposed much longer to bad parents or evil siblings.

My mother was totally depessed and an alcoholic whilst my sister was a man-eating nympth. I don’t even think she was a victim of my dad, as she wanted sex whenever she could and even moved 2 floors up, so she could be together with my dad. She never complained about it to police (as far as I know).

I don’t even care if my sister – who is still alive – reads this because the burden of knowing this and nothing ever having been done about it, is just about too much for me to carry around.

The ‘MeToo’ movement seems to care a lot about abuse and exploitation in the work place but I have never been exploited in the workplace I had to cope with incest (even though I didn’t know it at the time) and a sex made sister who gotten me into bad habits.

I think you just don’t talk about that out of embarrassment but I really do not care any longer. My sister severely critised me for getting married and having children. And even though it wasn’t a respectable (respectable in her view) marriage to a rich man, at least it was a marriage and it was decent – from my part of it – and the children borne were not perfect but we did our best.

My sister now refuses to speak with me because I lived on benefits mostly, since I got married, but really what is bad about having some morals? My sister even wanted to prevent me from getting my share of my father’s inheritance and tried to make me agree that my share gets paid to her; she is a money-grabbing no-good sister.  I had to fight her lawyer for months to get my share of the money.

She has tons of money and sits on it. I reckon she should pay the state for all the benefits they had to fork out for me claiming all those years as it is her who produced a lot of the trauma.

I think my life in Britain would have gone different would I have been able to have a normal relationships with my sister and family. As it was, I just had kids with a husband who was work-shy. He only loved films.

We have very few children in our German family, everybody was always working and nobody had any kids.

I am now not interested in any type of relationships to do with intimacy with anyone. I suppose I would not have had much interest in sex ever, would it not have been for my sister introducing me to it.

I just know that any trouble I gotten myself into in my life was because I needed to get away from home and that gotten my into contact with people I shared flats with and met whilst trying to find jobs and getting settled. You just couch-surf to have somewhere to sleep.

Perhaps our crime-rates today are partially due to bad family relationships, which breed anti-social behaviour in people.

Of course the law has forbidden forced marriage and domestic violence but what happened to me is not against the law unless somebody complains about it.

But in many families keeping to the letter of the law is not the first priority. If it was society would be in a better state than it is.

 

self-esteem and inheritance

Watched ‘Rambo, last blood’ last night and the story is not dissimilar to a story line inthe Sinner where Cora Tannetti gets kidnapped drugged and abused. In the Sinner it was to make Cora forget that she saw a murder but in Rambo it was a prostitution racket.

Apparently Rambo’s adopted daughter had everything going for her, she had a big house, her own car and was about to start university when she asked a ‘friend’ to find out where her natural father lived.

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This desire to meet birth parents is the worst irrational emotional mistake a child can make. I still have not found out why they even would want to do it.

Perhaps it has to do with hearing friends talking about mums and dads. Many kids are adopted and do not know they were but it’s just the atmosphere the problems the adoptive parents themselves have between them and the conversations children overhear that make them wonder whether that birth parent is the path out of all problems.

Baby-boomers of the 80s are replaced now with rich parents who can afford to pay for surrogacy. That new generation of surrogate babies will grow up and will find out that they have been bought.

I saw a lot of films and documentaries dealing with the problems it caused when children suddenly found out that they are not actually the natural children of the people they live with.

Anyhow the birth father of Rambo’s daughter was not the least bit interested in the child, which then ended in tears for her and the suggestion by her friend to go to a fun evening to a night-club, where she was drugged immediately and put on heroin and put into a pool of prostitutes. All the girls were made dependant on regular heroin injections to keep them on the job. Threats of getting them killed kept them in their place.

The effort men make to have regular intercourse. They stop at nothing. Those bordellos are hotbeds for germs and diseases.

It is up to the society to make the rules and to ensure that nobody gets enslaved into any type of trade. A society is only as good as it’s weakest member. If the politicians allow slavery and exploitation to happen then it will.

Rambo of course managed to kill a whole army of drug dealers by himself, though his daughter was in her grave by that time already.

I do not understand why he drove her in the car and did not bring her to a doctor first thing after freeing her from the drug pushers. She died on the way home, having been filled with drugs. I reckon a hospital bed could have saved her.

But then I suppose he was more interested in his own ego being bruised. In the end the fight between him and the crime brothers was just about themselves, to see who was stronger.

I reckon every parent feels deceived if kids just run off and drop out of the chosen path for them.

I think how many years I put into caring for my children. In the end, there is nothing else to do but to try and care for off-spring. Therefore it is now better that women get encouraged to get jobs whilst also being mothers. Because there is something else to do but looking after the little ones.

Parents easily get sucked into the caring pose and promptly get exploited by children who ask for those extra treats to keep them happy.

But parents who also have jobs are probably better equipped to stave off lazy kids who just want to have an easy ride.

Most importantly adoptive parents should always tell their children that they are adopted or otherwise acquired. The reality of knowing the facts helps a lot if things come to a crunch. Because not even the relationships of adoptive parents are guaranteed never to go wrong. What if the arguments set in and the adopted kids get exposed to the quarrels of the parents later on?

Ideally children need to get the ability to work out their path into live on a rational basis. Any type of emotional trauma only serves them wrong.

I think those parent-child relationships whereby all work together on a family business probably have the best chance of success for longivity. What often keeps kids friendly with parents is the prospect of inheriting the house. I really think that inheritance laws should change in that relatives should not have an automatic right to inherit because they are some document like a birth certificate or related through marriage.

Unless a person specifically names a person as beneficiary of a will, anybody who has no actual connection to a person should not be able to inherit the property or money. I see those heir hunters who try to find long lost relatives to inherit. That should go to charity instead because the long lost relative is actually like any other stranger to the deceased.

It’s all about building relationships.

 

 

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